>CONTROL YOUR ANGER AND JEALOUSY

Posted on December 31, 2010

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CONTROL YOUR ANGER AND JEALOUSY

The strongest man is he who can control his anger and jealousy.
To strengthen and help our mind's progress, it is a good plan to act as if the undesirable thought were no longer present.This seems in theory to divide the mind, but it introduces the use of will and can be proved to be a workable method. Probably the hardest thing to do is to react peaceable to a man who attacks you in word or deed. It is not so much the physical danger as the inherent egoism that feels utterly humiliated if it gives way in such circumstances. But anyone can give way when he is treated with courtesy and respect. Difficult circumstances are the really valuable ones. Moreover, to go through them is to realise how strong is the ''I'' and to value them as opportunities for coming to grips with this our real foe. Anger grows tenfold if met with anger, but if met calmly it often ends quickly in a sense of shame which is stronger by contrast. It is the most illogical of all passions. At the moment of intense anger a man is no longer really human; he has become a destructive animal. Even anger at injustice done to others is no a state of mind which is conducive to a right solution. But in dealing with oneself, this mood of anger cannot outlast a calm analysis.Obviously, the two attitudes are antithetical, and at first the anger, if already a habit, is likely to brush all else aside. But with practice, all things can be achieved, and we can look at ourselves and say, ''Who is it that is annoyed? What is the cause of this anger? Anger soon subsides and often is forgotten in the interest of discovering the cause. Afterwords, conscious of having avoided the probably foolish action that would have followed if anger had taken its course, we are glad that we observed such self-control. In addition, there nearly always appear other factors which we had ignored at the time.

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